We all know them. They can be compared to the month of March. They come in like a lion and out like a lamb. They’re the hormonal changes that occur for many of us whether due to menstruation, postpartum, or menopause. We’ve all experienced the uncontrollable sobbing, anxiety, sadness, mood swings, bloating, breast tenderness. cramping, break-outs, irritability, and panic attacks that result from these changes.
When I was about 7 months pregnant with my first child, I started to get panic attacks out of nowhere. Doctors blamed it on my hormones and pregnancy and I bought it. But, if I knew then what I know now, I would’ve seen what was going on a bit more clearly. My whole life was turned upside down at the age of 19 when I became pregnant for the first time, got married to my ex-husband of 16 years that I knew for about 3 months, and started to become a real adult, all after breaking up with my ex-boyfriend of 2 ½ years 6 months prior to getting married. Yep read that one again to fully comprehend the whirlwind I was in!
These emotions that my hormones were bringing out were trying to tell me something and help me heal.
The relationship I broke away from at 19 after 2 ½ years was a tumultuous and abusive relationship that I had to get a restraining order to get out of. This was the reason for my panic attacks more than the hormonal changes! I never had a chance to deal with everything that came with a relationship like that as my life was in overdrive for a good 12 months after it and my hormones were just the messengers asking me to listen and heal. Within 6 months, I went from staying out late as a kid to going to court to then shortly after picking out a wedding dress to sitting in Lamaze as a new adult with some guy that I knew for about 6 months talking about how there was a possibility I could poop the table during delivery. Ummmm can we say holy sh*t!?! No pun intended! This. Was. My. Life.
Then, I finally had my son and Bam! My hormones crept up again. I would just sob uncontrollably for about a week after he was born and then experienced panic attacks on and off for much of my 20’s. My hormones sure were out of whack but as it is clear to see, it wasn’t JUST about my hormones. The panic attacks, anxiety, mood swings, and sadness all had a message in it for me that I wasn’t listening to at the time. These emotions that my hormones were bringing out were trying to tell me something and help me heal.
After working with a spiritual life coach in my 30’s and attaining my Master’s in Holistic Health, I began to listen more to what my PMS was trying to tell me. The emotions we experience are actually real and not made up just from our hormones. Emotions are certainly intensified and issues seem way worse, but the underlying reason why we cry, get upset, or get anxiety are actually relevant and we need to give a good listen as to what they’re trying to tell us. If we truly want to know what some of our core issues, false beliefs, and blocks are, we may want to listen to that crazy hormonal bitch that comes through and disrupts our lives a little more closely. She knows way more than we give her credit for. While experiencing these hormonal changes, I have found a few things that truly help alleviate the severity of my symptoms.
Getting to the root of all these emotions will then help with the amount of stress it causes, which will eventually help with overall hormonal symptoms. It is a chain reaction which requires the first step to acknowledge the feelings and emotions. Accept where you are and quit pushing the emotions away while having compassion for your Self.
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