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5 Confidence Boosters to Help You Become a Kickass Single Mom

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By Stacey Freeman
 
I was 39 years old when I became a single mom to my 11, 10, and 6-year-old children. Though my husband and I had been living apart due to a job relocation that took him 8,000 miles from our New Jersey home, we somehow maintained the appearance of a rock solid marriage. When my husband abruptly announced he was leaving me and would reside overseas permanently, that facade disappeared almost immediately. In a matter of months, I officially assumed full physical custody of our kids and began reconciling how to face the emotional and logistical challenges of being a single mom. Feelings of self-doubt consumed me. Now five years into the future and today a self-described kickass single mom, here is what I would have told myself then if I knew what I do now.
 

1. It’s okay to say no

Being a single mom is, at times, overwhelming. Between working and caring for your children, you will find yourself multitasking like you never had to before. It may become frustrating, even embarrassing, when people ask for favors or want you to go out but you cannot because you are already on overload. Even so, you may feel obligated to say yes or want to, so you will anyway only to discover that you have to cancel later. Remind yourself that it’s okay to say no. You can only do so much. Equally as important, if you need a break, take it. No guilt.
 
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2. Your best is good enough

As a single mom, there can be a lot of pressure to get everything done perfectly. Balancing school pick ups and drop offs, doctor appointments, work, household chores, and self-care can be challenging. Remind yourself that you are still human and nobody, including you, is infallible. You can only do your best. Instead of worrying about everything you wish you could do, focus instead on what you already do and do well. Successfully getting through each day is an accomplishment in itself, especially when you are raising your kids without a partner.
 

3. Sometimes less is more

Single moms often try to do all of the same things they did for their children while they were married. That can be stressful as well as unrealistic. It’s okay to set limits based on what you can handle while parenting alone. For example, you can cut back the number of activities in which your kids participate. Talk to them and then pick the ones that are most relevant to their interests and that they enjoy the best. You can also reduce the amount of money you spend; your kids don’t need to fill up an entire shopping bag with clothes every time they walk into a store. Spend money on only the items you and your kids need. By adopting a less is more mentality, you will free up time in your already tight schedule and money in your budget, not to mention, teach your children values you and they may not have fully embraced in the past.
 
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If you think positively and make the best of your situation, eventually things will work out.

 
 

4. Your kids will be okay

Children are adaptable and are capable of doing and understanding much more than you may have traditionally believed. If you are new to being a single mom, consider that you are not alone, only unpartnered. Think of you and your kids as a team. Kids are more resilient than you know. More often than not they will rise to the occasion if you let them. Show them how strong you are and allow them to learn from it.
 

5. You will be okay

You may not believe it now, but over time you will adjust to being a single mom. Who knows, you may even come to like it given the independence it can engender in both you and your family. Similar to your kids, you, too, are capable of rebounding. Just keep an open mind. If you think positively and make the best of your situation, eventually things will work out. With enough love and attention, they usually do.
 
About the Author
Stacey Freeman is a writer and blogger from the New York City area, a divorced single mom, lifestyle editor at Worthy.com, and the founder and managing director of Write On Track, LLC, a full-service consultancy dedicated to providing high-quality content to individuals and businesses. A respected voice for divorce issues affecting both women and men, Stacey has been published in The Washington Post, Entrepreneur, Good Housekeeping, Cosmopolitan, Woman’s Day, Town & Country, The Huffington Post, xoJane, Scary Mommy, The Stir, MariaShriver.com, The Good Men Project, and various well-known platforms worldwide. Stacey is frequently called upon for her expertise and insights on the divorce experience and has repeatedly been quoted in The Huffington Post’s divorce vertical. Stacey holds her B.A. in English, summa cum laude and Phi Beta Kappa, from the University at Albany and her J.D. from Boston University School of Law. Email Stacey today at Stacey.Freeman@WriteOnTrackLLC.com or call 800-203-1946 for a free consultation and proposal. For more information, visit www.WriteOnTrackLLC.com.

Becoming a single mom can be daunting. These 5 emboldening affirmations are here to lift your spirits and remind you that you can do it!
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