By Nicole Amaturo
Are you trying hard to move on but just can’t seem to stop obsessing over an ex? Do you still feel like he has an energetic hold on you? In relationships, we form energetic cords, or cords of attachment, attaching our human energy field to our partners’. Often, we try to move on but we’re still connected. This allows us to feel stuck, drained, and frustrated. It is essential that we cut these cords that bind us.
What Does It Mean to Cut Cords?
You are more than just a physical body. You are a soul made up of energy having a human experience. These cords of attachment get especially entangled in intimate relationships and sexual partners. Once you no longer wish to repeat the old patterns, release their bind on you and get rid of stale, negative energy holding you back and taking up space – it is time to cut cords.
Cutting cords means that you spiritually sever ties to another person so that it no longer affects you in the present moment and future relationships. The deeper and more powerful a past relationship is affecting you means that there is a strong cord attaching the two of you. When you learn the lessons associated with past relationships and are ready to move on, cord cutting is a powerful tool.
Think about all the interactions you have day in and day out. With each interaction, there is an energy exchange. There are some positive exchanges and some not-so-positive. Every thought, feeling, or emotion is energy. The way you feel when you think about a person or experience will indicate what type of cord is formed. There are cords that uplift us and many that drain us, as well. With the exchange of any type of energy, cords of attachment are formed energetically and it is best to clear this energy from your energetic bodies.
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Even though a relationship is over, you may still feel affected by it. You may still feel drained, angry, or resentful when thinking of them. You may feel responsible for them. With all of these emotions that you are still holding means that this person is still taking up space within your energy field. When you still have an ex taking up space, it doesn’t allow space for a new partner to come in.
My Life-Changing Story with Energetic Cords
When I was divorced about two years, I got into a car accident one day and decided to cut cords with my ex that forever changed my life. I still felt responsible for my ex’s well-being. I felt like I had to check on him and let him know someone cared. I felt bad for and had guilt for ending our marriage and was over-compensating. At the time, I was beginning to talk to my now boyfriend but wasn’t completely letting him in. Energetically there wasn’t much room because of the responsibility I was carrying for my ex.
I woke up for the gym early one morning, got dressed, threw on my Nike’s and ran out the door. I hopped into my car and began my 7 minute ride to my kickboxing class. Just as I was halfway there, I remembered I was supposed to text my ex the night before to make sure he was ok and had a good night with the kids. As I was driving, I attempted to carelessly text him out of pure panic that I abandoned him. I was acting from a place of fear and whenever that is the motivation, nothing ever good comes from it. I learned my lesson from the Universe the hard way. I crashed my new car right into the car in front of me. At first I wanted to beat myself up for being so irresponsible but then I asked the Universe what the lesson in this was for me besides not texting and driving. My dad picked me up and we went to breakfast after I got the whole situation settled. Thank goodness nobody was hurt. At the diner came our waiter ready to take our order. His name tag looked me right in the eyes and sung the word, “Angel”, to me. His name was Angel and in that moment I knew it was a divine intervention that took place.
I had a $1000 deductible on my insurance at the time. After speaking with my spiritual teacher, she said to me if I got the lesson from this experience then something good will come out of this somehow by being rewarded from the Universe. I didn’t quite know what she meant but I sure did get the lesson. The lesson I needed to be smacked in the face with was to let go of my ex. Let go of feeling responsible for his happiness and well-being, as it was getting in the way of my own.
A week or so later, I had a 7 hour stomach virus. As I layed in bed green and weak, I heard my intuition tell me to do a cord-cutting meditation. I sat up slowly and closed my eyes and began to visualize this cord-cutting between me and my ex. Within 2 minutes of the meditation, I got up and ran to the bathroom to purge. As I was throwing up every last bit of liquid in me, I pictured getting rid of everything that no longer served me and said goodbye to my ex. I felt like a million bucks after and that was the end of the virus. I also found out my $1000 deductible got waived because I ended up knowing the family that owned the auto body shop my car coincidentally got towed to. That was my gift from the Universe once I got my lesson! Oh, and it allowed my boyfriend to come into my life too! Wins all around.
If you’d like to learn more about cutting cords, check out my masterclass or download my cord-cutting meditation here to free yourself today.
About the Author
Nicole Amaturo is a Mindset Coach who helps women all over the world uncover and heal blocks inhibiting them from attracting the love they desire and deserve. Nicole holds a B.A. in Education and Psychology, as well as an M.A. in Holistic Health from Georgian Court University. Nicole is a divorced mom of three on a mission to share her lessons in self-love and worth as the founder of The Free Life with Nicole Amaturo. She is a certified Infinite Possibilities trainer by best-selling author, Mike Dooley, in his program on The Art of Living Your Dreams. Nicole is also a graduate of Gabrielle Bernstein’s Spirit Junkie Masterclass. Writing is Nicole’s second love and is an active contributor to the Worthy blog. Learn more about Nicole here.